Parental Disciplining by the Golden Rule Combines the Best of Spock and Tiger Mom
COLORADO SPRINGS, Colo., Oct. 16, 2012 /PRNewswire/ — Expert opinions often do not adequately fit the needs of a parent-child relationship, according to parenting bloggers. Experts are either too permissive (Spock) or far too harsh (Tiger Mom). Parental disciplining techniques often do not fit a child’s specific needs, leaving parents feeling frustrated.
The lack-of-fit problem is fixed, according to child psychotherapist Gary M. Unruh, by using two key parts of his Golden Rule approach: (1) parents learn to personalize their approach through getting in tune with treating their children the way the parents would like to be treated and (2) parents learn techniques that fit each child’s and parent’s specific needs.
All the how-to parental disciplining details are found in Unruh’s just-released book Golden Rule Parenting: Treat Your Child the Way You Would Like to Be Treated (Lighthouse Love Productions, LLC, July 2012). Concepts from his Unleashing Parental Love approach outlined in his first book, Unleashing the Power of Parental Love, and the unlimited biblical wisdom of the Golden Rule are used to fortify his material.
Unruh comments about his parental disciplining material: “The book’s major parenting contribution is transforming children into respectful, compassionate adults through two life-enriching parenting principles, needed especially during discipline. First, a child feels understood at the heart/feeling level. Second, self-control is learned through firm discipline at the head/reasoning level.”
Six heart-to-heart communication skills, outlined in Unruh’s book, help parents effectively implement his “heart first, head second” parental disciplining approach. These skills are vividly portrayed through hundreds of real-life experiences, often revealed through the eyes of a child or adolescent.
Unruh makes this observation after counseling forty plus years: “Feeling understood when you’re wrong is the fastest route to feeling strong within yourself. Over and over again parents using this approach report seeing their children become self-assured and transformed into respectful, compassionate, humble human beings.”
Unruh concludes, “Every parent I’ve counseled immediately understands the importance of feeling understood when a problem comes up, but it’s tricky to pull it off. Parents are pleasantly surprised with the short learning curve necessary to acquire these parental disciplining understanding skills and are excited to see their children transformed into respectful, compassionate, humble human beings.”
About the Company
Lighthouse Love Productions was created by Unruh in 2010 for the sole purpose of strengthening a child’s heart through understanding and acceptance by applying his transforming Unleashing Parental Love parenting approach. Research verifies a positive attitude and belief system is critical for good brain development and overall happiness. Through his web site, parents are invited to review his two books, view his Parental Love YouTube channel, access current parenting information on his Facebook and Twitter accounts, and read his weekly informative blogs. Visit http://www.unleashingparentallove.com.
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