New Book Reveals People with Terminal Illnesses Don’t Have Family and Friends Support to Discuss Their Feelings About Dying
Diane Dennis, author of The Hourglass: How to Live as Time Flies By, learned that people who are facing their mortality don’t have friends and family who want to discuss dying. Dennis followed a women’s hospital support group and found that people facing mortality feel isolated and lonely. Loved ones are hesitant to discuss life and death issues with their terminally ill friend or family.
Portland, Ore. (PRWEB) December 3, 2010
New book found that people suffering from terminal illnesses feel lonely. “The problem isn’t that they are literally alone. While family and friends visit and hold vigil over their beds, the quality of communication during the process of dying is often lacking honesty and emotional intimacy,” explains Diane Dennis, author of The Hourglass: How to Live as Time Flies By.
Dennis found this and other insights from following a hospital support group of women diagnosed in late stages of ovarian cancer. The women in the group voiced their concerns about not being able to express their biggest fears. Generally nurturers, women in particular worry about how their families are coping as much if not more than how they are feeling about dying. “If the doctor gives me the news that I have relapsed, the first thing I worry about is how to tell my husband,” one woman commented. A unanimous nod of agreement around the table concludes that the group is the support these women need. “The support group was a sacred place of sharing their deepest feelings and fears. One woman didn’t even tell her family about her diagnosis for two years. By that time the cancer had advanced into late stages,” reports Dennis.
“I can’t blame either the family or the patient. Talking about loss, death, and dying is painful. As long as there is a glimmer of hope, no matter how unrealistic statistically, everyone holds onto the thread of wishing. These women are facing their mortality, something most of us avoid. They developed a sense of humor that they didn’t feel comfortable outside the room. They would say things like “ËœI don’t buy green banana’s anymore’ referring to their prognosis.” The Hourglass gives family members, friends, and loved ones a view into the hearts of those dealing with their mortality and struggling to keep control of their fears and anxiety.
“I found this group of women to be an inspiring and sacred tribe of individuals, coming together to live in a way that honors each minute they have. Instead of learning how to die with dignity, I learned how to live in the moment from these women who opened up their lives and hearts for me to write their stories.”
Other insights Dennis learned through the experience of following the group of women for over a year were how to develop new definitions of hope, cope with fear, and live with purpose and passion in all ways. The Hourglass: How to Live as Time Flies By is funny, moving, insightful, and empowering.
Diane Dennis has a degree in Nursing, and is a Certified Life Strategies Coach. Diane Dennis has been a columnist for the Portland Tribune, Daily Astorian, West Linn Tidings, and a guest columnist for the Oregonian. Visit Diane, and purchase The Hourglass through her website http://www.CoachDianeD.com. Diane is available for speaking engagements, seminars and workshops to groups and businesses. Diane is a regular monthly guest on ABC affiliate KATU’s AM Northwest, and is a radio host on KUIK 1360AM.
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