January 19, 2009

Study: First love can hurt future romance

Researchers at England's University of Essex said their study suggests memories of first love can endanger future romances.

The university's Institute for Social and Economic Research said in Changing Relationships, a book collecting research papers edited by Dr. Malcolm Brynin, that a sociology study indicated people in relationships are less likely to form a lasting bond if they attempt to recapture the passion of a former love, The Daily Mail reported Monday.

Remarkably, it seems that the secret to long-term happiness in a relationship is to skip a first relationship, Brynin said. "In an ideal world you would wake up already in your second relationship. If you had a passionate first relationship and allow that feeling to become your benchmark, it becomes inevitable that future, more adult partnerships will seem boring and a disappointment.

The problems start if you try not only to get everything you need for an adult relationship, but also strive for the heights of excitement and intensity you had in your first experience of love, he said. The solution is clear: if you can protect yourself from intense passion in your first relationship, you will be happier in your later relationships.